A happy mind is a great thing to have especially as we get older, it’s very easy to turn into a miserable old git and blame it on the fact that you’re getting older which isn’t a valid reason it’s just an excuse.
All of us have the option of how we want to think and what thoughts we let into our mind every day but it does seem that being happy escapes a lot of people and they are normally waiting for some future event to happen in their life before they can be happy. So when i get enough money in the bank, or get the mortgage paid off, when the children leave home or get to university, then i can start to relax and enjoy life a bit more and then i’ll be happy.
That’s what’s known as a deferred life plan, waiting until a day some time in the future turns up and then everything will be cool. But until then, i’ll just put up with whatever life throws at me grit my teeth and hope it all works out ok.
There’s a better way than that and i have found that happiness is available right now, not somewhere later on down the road but you do have to choose to do some internal work on yourself which normally starts with the way you think about yourself to give yourself a different perspective about how life is turning out.
Being happy is good for your health first of all. Whenever you meet a happy person or if you have a friend that you’ve known a while, and they are happy, you noticed they view life a lot different from the majority of others, they’re more optimistic, they let go of things a lot easier, less stressed or worried and generally a much nicer person to be around.
You always feel better after spending time in their company rather than a lot of people you can’t wait to get away from.
To become happy you have to begin to treat yourself nicely, especially mentally. Rather than pulling yourself down all the time, you give yourself a break and forgive yourself a lot more rather than holding onto things that made you feel bad about you.
I used to give myself a lot of conditions to meet before i could be pleased or happy with me, and it’s a road that i could never get off because everytime i did something i was always criticising myself that it wasn’t good enough or comparing myself with somebody else and so whenever i got to a place in my life that i thought would make me happy, when i arrived there it wasn’t good enough, so there i was, off further down the road trying to get somewhere else that i thought would bring me happiness.
But it never did. It’s a horrible cycle of life to be in but a lot of us live exactly like that, never happy with where they are, so they strive to get somewhere else but never get to arrive at a place they are satisfied with.
But there is a place of happiness that we can all get to if we’re willing to make a change and it’s found on the inside of us, not on the outside.
When you uncover that place of inner happiness which isn’t based upon any external conditions in my life that kind of happiness doesn’t turn up and go away when my circumstances change, it remains constant. Unlike a happiness which is based upon things like money, or a car, house or a new relationship which are so subject to change quickly.
This happiness doesn’t care what age you are, whether you’re 50, 60 or 90 it’s available to absolutely everyone who wants to take the time to listen out for it.